While I was with Lynn this past weekend, we talked about where our hubbies were at spiritually. I know you can relate to this discussion. Do they really see Jesus in us? Do they have any idea of how much we pour of our love and selves into these guys of ours? I will be honest, I wondered if my hubby really picked up on any of this.
I’ve been praying for him a long time. Just like you’ve prayed for your spouse. And it’s not easy to be in that place and not see anything change. Really hard…
Well, I want to share something that happened this weekend that affirmed to me that God is working.
My husband is pretty good about giving cards. Sometimes we agree to bypass them when we’re just too busy, but overall he's pretty good at finding simple, one-liner cards that tell me he loves me. I so appreciate that.
This Mother’s Day was different though. He gave me a LONG card. He’s never done this before, not something this wordy. It had lines like:
“How can a husband ever repay his wife for the gifts she brings…her love, her time, her very self…” (The water works started right here.)
“Your love sets something free inside my heart…a deeper joy for life, a peace from truly being known…” (This one really struck me because we have talked about how we feel lonely in our marriages.)
“Your love challenges me to stand taller…” (This reminded me of our discussions about respecting our husbands and affirming them.)
I will tell you, as I read this, my eyes filled with tears. He’d warned me there was a “cry factor” to this one. (giggle) He knows me well.
But I had to know…had to ask… “Do you really mean all this?”
He smiled at me. “Of course I do.”
Wow… I was speechless. I cried some more. This was a gift from God. I’d just expressed my doubts to Lynn about whether my hubby really saw all this working in his life and here was this amazing card telling me that he did. As if God were saying, “See, it’s really making a difference. YOU are making a difference.”
So my sweet friends, I know many of you feel discouraged because nothing seems to change. And Mother’s Day may have been a disappointment to you. Perhaps again…
But I just want to say to you, don’t give up. Keep going. Keep praying. Keep believing. God hears our prayers. He sees what we pour into the lives of our unbelieving spouses and what we sacrifice for them. None of it is wasted.
Even when we can't see anything changing, God is working. Our love, respect, and prayers are making a difference.
Praying and believing,
Dineen
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