Our emotions can overwhelm rational thought and leave us vulnerable to enemy attack. How do we work through the hurt?
Begin with expectations. What can you expect? Nancy Kennedy provides some wise words of advice in her book, When He doesn’t Believe. “You can expect opposition, whether subtle or blatant, passive or purposeful. If you expect opposition, then you won’t be surprised when it comes. The danger, of course, is the temptation to place yourself in a constant state of spiritual defensiveness, always on alert for enemy attacks. Yes, an unbeliever lacks spiritual discernment and is opposed to the truth of the gospel, but an obnoxious, defensive Christian is only inviting conflict.”
“A better way is to expect that your husband wants harmony between the two of you. Chances are he doesn’t want to fight. He just wants his dinner on time and a warm, responsive body to curl up next to in bed. Focus not on opposition but on what binds you together as a couple.”
Wise words…. I also want to encourage you to read the posts from the wise readers who left comments. They are excellent.
I plan to return to this subject again soon along with one of my friends, Rebecca Saville, who is a professional counselor I work with through my church. Rebecca is a wise, Christian woman who has helped many who struggle in difficult relationships. I hope to have her interview later this week on the subject of emotions.
Be blessed!
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