loneliness
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We Are Stronger Together
If you found your way here from the Focus on the Family broadcast, the first thing you heard yesterday was a quote from us. “Isolation steals our joy.” That’s why the first chapter of our book is titled, “Know That You’re Not Alone!” Our marriages are under attack by an enemy who wants to keep…
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Messy and Broken Could Be The Best Place To Be
It’s Sunday afternoon as I write this post, I know I should be asking you to listen to Dineen and me on the radio today. But, right now I just can’t. My heart is heavy. In a rare moment, this morning at church at the request of our Pastor, I went to the front…
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Our Place of Influence: Where do we choose to stand?
When I try to explain to someone the role of influence we hold in our husband’s lives, it’s almost too difficult to put into words what I sense so deeply in my heart. I will say it is something I feel very passionate about. As women, we hold a very important place in the lives…
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Baptism is Happy and Sad
Yesterday as I sat during church, I watched as five individuals gave their testimony and were baptized. I’m nearly always moved to tears when I watch someone become baptized. I pray with diligence as they go under the water, asking the Lord to protect them from the enemy and to grow them up in the…
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Bloom and Grow…. Forever
I was sitting in yet another class, at a Women’s Ministry, anticipating once again how I could learn something about surviving in a marriage with an unsaved husband. I’d been to many different kinds of classes on marriage and many different churches, searching and searching. There must be someone, some pastor, some ministry, someone that…
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I Have a Serious Question for You.
Are you ready for healing? Do you think as Christians most of the time we think of heavenly healing as a cure of a physical ailment? I believe we do and I know God miraculously heals people of physical sickness and disease. I also know God heals us from their emotional and mental injuries. What…
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Weekend Devo – We Are Known
Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. – 1Cor. 13:12 1 Corinthians 13 is known as the love chapter. Yet at the end of this wonderful chapter is…
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Weekend Devo-To Know and Be Known
(This is a re-post from July 30, 2007, with the addition of applicable Scripture. In light of our recent topics I thought it might be a good one to revisit.) But the man who loves God is known by God. – 1Corinthians 8:3 As I wrote down my prayer, the ache in my heart formed…
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Unified by Circumstances
I had the wonderful opportunity to speak and share with a group of ladies Monday evening as part of the Daughters of Sarah ministry at Riverslake Church in Bakersfield, CA. We all share a common bond-being unequally yoked. Again, I’m amazed at how just knowing we’re not alone can minister to the ache in our…
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Weekend Devotion – I am afraid!
I am afraid. It happened on October 20th, 2004. My husband purchased his one and only bible. This was such a momentous day in my mind that I recorded this occasion in my daily bible. I wanted to remember the exact day that my husband began his journey home. There are several events that lead…
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Feeling Alone
When I was feeling alone in my marriage, before my husband received “the big talk” from God. I felt really really alone. It was just me and the kids. Most wives and husbands can talk to each other and communicate pretty well but not us. We use to be pretty much best friends in the…
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To Know and Be Known
by: Dineen Miller As I wrote down my prayer, the ache in my heart formed into these five words, “to know and be known.” Baffled by its meaning, yet fearful of the ramifications, I realized in that moment this was my dream. To know and be known. Several days later as I read one of…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part VII
If you want to change your marriage, you must move from apathy to commitment. Begin by practicing thankfulness. Make a list of your blessings. Specifically thank God for your spouse and the specific things you appreciate about him or her. Thanksgiving breaks down entitlement attitudes that breed discontentment. Self-talk such as I deserve a better…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part VI
This next post may hurt a bit. Some people never grow up. And, by-the-way, that IS NOT A GOOD THING! If you are married to an immature person, it can be utterly wearisome. No matter what you do, you cannot make someone grow up but you certainly don’t need to enable them in their irresponsibility.…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part V
After twenty years of marriage, George and Cyndi (fictitious names), are living in the same house, sharing the same table but feel alone and stuck in a marriage desperate for affection. George has turned to pornography and Cyndi to food. Their desperate hunger has forced them to grab at anything that will feed their need…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part IV
It’s time to take your pulse. All of God’s children are born with personality, traits, and abilities which are unique. However, attitudes and perceptions are what we develop in our childhood. Attitudes and perceptions we can change as an adult. Think about your family of origin and your family of today. Was your family: Supportive…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part III
In some of my research materials, Christian Counselors indicate people do not know how to love one another. We will learn about this in future posts. But today we need to learn about ourselves. To learn how to love another person, specifically our spouse, first we must learn who we are. My life forever changed…
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I am married, so why do I feel so alone? Part I
So how do we arrive in marriage feeling alone? We hear others tell us how their spouse is their best friend. Hearing this statement rips our heart out of our chest. We can’t begin to imagine a kind relationship with our spouse let alone a deep friendship. How did we end up in this crazy…