Conflict and Challenges
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Conflict: Move from Negative to Positive
I think this area of conflict and boundaries in marriage hit a nerve with many of you. The comments left on previous posts are amazing and vulnerable. Many of you have offered your perspective with what is working in your marriage. The reading suggestions are great and if someone truly wants help in this area,…
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I’m Going to Get into Your Business!
On Friday I shared a comment from a reader that really has me thinking. The commenter shares about her spouse: He would announce he was the head of house (I had told him that) he would tease my new faith in public; all the while I would smile and not correct him (thinking it was…
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Weekend Devo – Loving When It’s Hard
I know sometimes it's not easy to love difficult people. Sometimes it's hard to love our spouses too, especially when there's a lot of hurt and disappointment in the relationship. I read this devotional yesterday and thought it so applicable to our mismatched marriages. We truly can't love our spouses the way Christ calls us…
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You Crossed the Line
Today I am compelled to share with you a comment from Monday’s post: I was on the brink of marital disaster when Jesus first started whispering to me to come to Him. Fast forward a few years and someone passed on a book to me about submitting to your husband – I took what it…
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The Burden of Guilt
I don't know about you, but as a mother of two, I’ve become really good at carrying around a lot of guilt. Do you feel responsible for every little thing that goes wrong in the lives of your family? As if maybe, if you believed a little harder, were together a little more yourself, you…
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Weekend Devo – The Key to Being Content
This is a post I wrote in Spring of 2008 and a topic worth revisiting. Blessings! Have you ever had one of those weeks where you notice a common theme? The subject of a devotional, an email that comes over your favorite prayer loop, Sunday’s sermon, this weeks subject at your small group Bible study……
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Step Four: Catch the Vision
Over the last few weeks I’ve posted several articles about loving our spouses unconditionally. Here are the links in case you want to review. Step One: Choose to Love Step Two: Focus on Your Mission Step Three: Obedience This week, I’d like to take this to what I believe is a subtle yet very crucial…
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Focus on Your Mission
In last week's post I talked about making the choice to love our spouses. And as I said before, this is the first step to loving our unbelieving spouses unconditionally. Many of you have shared that it's difficult to love your spouse because of his behavior, which is completely understandable. But please also understand that…
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Choose to Love
On the weekend devo I wrote about loving our spouse unconditionally. Let’s talk some more about how to do that. Sometimes giving examples helps too, so if you have one you’d like to share, please do so in the comments section. Let me travel a tangent here to say that Lynn and I value your…
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More Adventures and a New Motto…
Like Lynn and her Chronicles of the Donovan Clan, the Miller Adventures are taking some interesting turns. The latest is a new business venture on my hubby’s part. He’s left the conglomeration of the tech industry to venture out on his own. Yes, a bit risky in today’s economy, but it’s something he’s always wanted…
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Chronicles Part Deux
As you read this I am likely on my way to Salt Lake City. I grew up there. My daughter and I are attending an anniversary party. We plan to visit our childhood friends and celebrate their parent’s 50th wedding anniversary. We will laugh our heads off sharing the many stories of our crazy childhood…
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Pursuing Salvation
The other night I sat with a friend in a coffee shop as we swapped the latest details of our lives. I shared with her about my father’s funeral, which led to me telling her about a conversation I recently had with my husband. I asked him this question years ago, but since my father’s…
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Here I Go Again…..
Where DO We Draw the Line?I’m in a quandary. I have shared with you in past months how comparing our spouse to another spouse is a toxic occupation. For example we try not to notice but can’t help to observe how “Cindy’s” husband (not her real name) is amazingly considerate of her. We watch her husband with the kids and…
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What’s Your Tone?
In his book Blink, Malcolm Gladwell uses many examples of the ways we make split decisions. Early on in the book he makes reference to Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen:” defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt. Gottman says the most important of these and the most destructive is contempt. As a writer, I’m very much aware…
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Is Divorce Really the Answer? – Part 2
In last week’s post, I shared a list of lies and false beliefs from Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book, Lies Women Believe. The second part of her book title is, “And the Truth That Sets Them Free.” Today I want to share the list of truths she counters those lies with. There is no marriage God…
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Is Divorce Really the Answer?
“No sooner does a couple say, “I do,” than the Serpent rears his ugly head and sets out to destroy that marriage. He knows every divorce is an attack on the character of God and on the earthly picture of divine redemption. Before the wedding reception is over, Satan is looking for opportunities to plant…
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What Does He Think?
In yesterday's post, Lynn answered Cindi's great question about what our husbands think of what we're doing here on the blog and the S.U.M. ministry. Scroll down to read Lynn's awesome answer. I thought I should answer Cindi's question as well. Like Lynn, I too have been amazed at the ease in which my husband…
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Get Real.. A Few More Questions:
Next Question: Part I Part II Part III Interview: From Cindi on April 5, 2010: Jesus was there with you so what a great interview. It touched me. I am constantly intrigued to know just how your husband supports you so much with this ministry but does not believe. When he heard the interview, how…
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Weekend Devo – God Knows Your Faithfulness
Another great devotional from Rick Warren. I hope it encourages and reminds you that God knows and sees our obedience and faithfulness in our spiritually mismatched marriages. And we can praise him for that! Have a great weekend!Praying and believing,Dineen God Knows Your FaithfulnessBy Rick Warren So we must not get tired of doing good,…
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What Changes Really?
I want to continue the series I began a few weeks ago, Get Real. If you remember, I recently was a guest on a radio program where I shared about my life and marriage to an unbeliever. This interview stirred the thoughts of many readers here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Below are the links to…
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Living Like Winners
For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. 5Who is it that overcomes the world? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. – 1John 5:4-5 In last week’s post I touched on the theme of overcoming. If you think…