Spiritually Unequal Marriage

Dorothy felt both perplexed and enchanted by Frank’s mystique: She had never met a more private man, and he often evaded her questions. Near the end of the date she might ask him where he was going or what he was planning to do. He would just wink, smile knowingly, and say, “I’ll call you…

Why do men find recreational compatibility enormously important? Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband. —Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs, Her Needs This interest is difficult to navigate. Before marriage, both partners show interest and participation in the recreation choices of…

The weekend is upon us, a perfect time to visit the Love Bank. How can we store up more deposits in our husbands love bank? The second need for men in Dr. Harley’s book, His Needs, Her Needs is Recreational Companionship. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in…

A woman uses about 20,000 words per day while a man uses about 7,000. The female brain is a lean, mean communicating machine, according to Dr. Louann Brizendine, clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. Of course, the statistics vary but what is undisputed is women need to talk. In our…

As we continue our series these are the common difficulties in meeting the needs of your spouse: 1. Men are in touch with their sexuality because of their basic male drive. He often lacks skill in lovemaking and therefore more or less use his wife. Because his technique is unaffectionate, she becomes more and more…

In this series, we have looked at the first thing a woman needs in a marriage relationship, affection. Today we are going to begin to look at a man’s primary need in a marriage relationship, sexual fulfillment. Dr. Harley writes: The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the…

The List: 1. Hug and kiss your wife every morning, while you are still in bed. 2. Tell her that you love her, while you’re having breakfast together. 3. Kiss her before you leave for work. 4. Call her during the day, to see how she is doing. 5. Bring her flowers once in a…

Was the Emotional Needs Questionnaire difficult? Did your answers surprise you? Let’s take a look at the first thing she can’t do without- Affection: Affection Is the Cement of a Relationship: To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval, vitally important commodities in their eyes. When a husband shows his wife affection, he…

Dr. Harley introduces in his book, His Needs, Her Needs, the needs of men and women. They are similar needs but their priorities are vastly different between the sexes. Dr. Harley stresses that the needs he covers in his book apply to most couples but are not exactly the same for each person. Additionally, the…

Love Bank in Trouble In the previous post we looked at the Love Bank. The author goes on to say…Now that I have sketched out my Love Bank concept, you may be thinking it sounds arbitrary and artificial. Obviously, the Love Bank is not intended to be a mathematically accurate concept. It simply describes the…

So what is a love bank? Willard F. Harley, Jr. describes it this way: Everyone Has a Love Bank Figuratively speaking, I believe each of us has a Love Bank. It contains many different accounts, one for each person we know. Each person either makes deposits or withdrawals whenever we interact with him or her.…

Marriage is a complex relationship, perhaps the most intricate on the face of the earth. Unfortunately, most of us don’t realize what we get into when we say, “I do.” We think the dynamics of a good marriage depends on some mysterious blend of the “right” people. Or if a marriage turns out badly, we…