Spiritually Unequal Marriage

We have reached the end of our study of His Needs, Her Needs. The final two chapters are How to Survive An Affair and From Incompatible to Irresistible. How to Survive An Affair: Step One: Ask yourself if you truly want to survive. Step Two: Don’t Put up With It Step Three: Get a Good…

A husband needs his wife to appreciate him for what his already is, not for what he could become if he lived up to her standards. Admiration motivates a man to achieve more. He sees himself able to take on more responsibility for his family. Behind every man should be an admiring wife. This is…

Our series on His Needs, Her Needs is approaching the last three chapters. Today let’s take a look at a woman’s need for her husband to be a good father and committed to family. Women are deeply connected to family, parents, aunts, uncles, etc. Women enjoy family events and spending time with her parents. I…

Let’s take a look today at a man’s need for peace and quite, domestic support. Quite frankly, I think this is a woman’s need as well. However, we are able to deal with the chaos of child rearing better than men in general. Okay, I’m a little ornery today, sorry guys. This chapter is fascinating.…

Privacy in a marriage relationship is one thing but secrecy is another issue all together. Honesty is one of the most important qualities in a successful marriage. When you are married, you must send each other accurate messages and receive accurate responses. Do husband’s lie to their wives? A man may respond in a dishonest,…

Dorothy felt both perplexed and enchanted by Frank’s mystique: She had never met a more private man, and he often evaded her questions. Near the end of the date she might ask him where he was going or what he was planning to do. He would just wink, smile knowingly, and say, “I’ll call you…

Why do men find recreational compatibility enormously important? Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband. —Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs, Her Needs This interest is difficult to navigate. Before marriage, both partners show interest and participation in the recreation choices of…

The weekend is upon us, a perfect time to visit the Love Bank. How can we store up more deposits in our husbands love bank? The second need for men in Dr. Harley’s book, His Needs, Her Needs is Recreational Companionship. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in…

A woman uses about 20,000 words per day while a man uses about 7,000. The female brain is a lean, mean communicating machine, according to Dr. Louann Brizendine, clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. Of course, the statistics vary but what is undisputed is women need to talk. In our…

As we continue our series these are the common difficulties in meeting the needs of your spouse: 1. Men are in touch with their sexuality because of their basic male drive. He often lacks skill in lovemaking and therefore more or less use his wife. Because his technique is unaffectionate, she becomes more and more…

In this series, we have looked at the first thing a woman needs in a marriage relationship, affection. Today we are going to begin to look at a man’s primary need in a marriage relationship, sexual fulfillment. Dr. Harley writes: The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the…

The List: 1. Hug and kiss your wife every morning, while you are still in bed. 2. Tell her that you love her, while you’re having breakfast together. 3. Kiss her before you leave for work. 4. Call her during the day, to see how she is doing. 5. Bring her flowers once in a…

Was the Emotional Needs Questionnaire difficult? Did your answers surprise you? Let’s take a look at the first thing she can’t do without- Affection: Affection Is the Cement of a Relationship: To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval, vitally important commodities in their eyes. When a husband shows his wife affection, he…