“Honey, please tell me you have noticed this.” I point to the water on the floor in the bathroom. “You are practically stepping in it.”
He looks down, “Oh. Ya, I guess I did see that earlier.”
It is at this point I can mentally blow a gasket. I don’t get it. How could he NOT see there is a problem? There are numerous instances such as this that occur in our daily life. They go unnoticed by our spouse. I just don’t understand how my man can see something that is apparent and yet not GET IT.
Can you relate?
Perhaps in your house it is socks on the floor. Or perhaps, it might be a broken sprinkler, or your need of a bouquet of flowers, or a project in the family room that needs finishing?
Well this past week I had a light bulb moment.
Ping!
The truth is; what is obvious to me is not obvious to him. He absolutely does not notice many things that need attention. Our men do not process these obvious needs nor register them in their minds the same way as women.
It is true however madding it may be. When I wrapped my mind around this fact, it released me from a ton of frustration and anger. What is obvious to me is NOT obvious to him. On the other hand, I asked my husband if there I things I just don’t get. He smiled and pointed to the clutter on the kitchen cabinet. With a big grin on his face he said, “I just don’t get it.”
I’m not so perfect after all! *grin*
Coming up Rebecca Seville, Psychologist, and consultant here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage, talks about how we can move our marriage out of a rut even if it has been stuck there for years. Stay tuned.
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