I know, I know. You’re most likely tired of the subject by now. Thanksgiving is over. We’ve seen plenty of posts about it, but I want to bring one more dish to the table before it’s cleared.
Thankfulness for our unbelieving spouses.
Sometimes this is incredibly difficult, or nearly impossible, but I do believe it to be vital. Our human nature tells us to do the opposite-to hold a grudge or to even be justifiably judgmental. Especially in situations where we’re criticized or ridiculed for our faith. However, I believe there is a deeper meaning to why we are to give thanks for all things, including our trials.
One, it puts our eyes on God. In order to give thanks for a difficult person or situation, we have to purposely turn our eyes upward and acknowledge God’s power and presence in the circumstances.
Two, thankfulness is a direct contradiction to resentment. I find that when I go before God and thank him for husband, my resentment fizzles away. I can see reasons to be genuinely thankful for my husband, and appreciate him anew. How often we keep our eyes on the issues instead of upward on the One truly in control.
Three, in praying this thankfulness, we are changed. Our hearts become more in line with the Holy Spirit dwelling within us and with the image of Christ. When we stop fighting and come to the throne, we will find grace in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)
Like I said, I know this isn’t easy, however holding onto the resentment expends a lot more energy. If this is an area you’re struggling in, start slow and small. Find one simple thing you can be thankful for about your spouse. Perhaps a smile as they left for work. A kind word to one of the kids. A weekly paycheck. The socks hitting the laundry instead of the floor.
Keep your heart open to God’s leading and life-changing grace. These are the steps to unconditional love-a love like the Savior held for us as He hung from the cross.
Praying and believing,
Dineen
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